Being there throughout the good times is easy. It’s
when the going gets tough that it’s important that you both stick together.
Real men don’t run out after a little fight, and they don’t take it out on
their significant others when they’re in a bad mood. They understand how
important their relationship is, and won’t let anything at all get in the way
of persevering.
2. He doesn’t avoid problems
Like I said, a real man doesn’t run out when things
get rough. And he also doesn’t bottle up his feelings until he explodes,
either. If something is bothering him within the relationship, he brings it up
carefully and respectfully. He is comfortable talking through the issues he’s
been having, and will make a genuine effort to fix any underlying issue that’s
been plaguing the relationship. He understands that even major problems don’t
define the relationship; it’s how you both work through them that does.
3. He pays attention to the little things.
If he lived alone, he probably wouldn’t care if the
dishes weren’t done, the garbage was overflowing, or if the only thing to eat
in the house was pizza rolls. But he knows you care about these things, so he
takes time away from what he enjoys doing to make sure the house is clean and
the fridge is stocked. He won’t ever watch a movie you both love without you by
his side, and he lets you pick the iPod playlist in the car. Even if he really, really despises
Top 40 radio…
4. He is smart and wise.
I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you
picked a smart one. But the true measure of a man’s intelligence is not simply
how smart he is, but what he does with his wisdom. He sees things from an
objective point of view, and is able to give you great advice with any
situation you face. He puts himself in your shoes constantly, so he understands
exactly what you’re going through, and he doesn’t blow you off with
half-hearted cliches. And you just know he will pass on great words of wisdom
to your future children.
5. He wants you to feel good about yourself.
He thinks you’re beautiful; why would he be with you
if he didn’t? But it’s not enough for him to think so; he also goes
to great lengths to make sureyou know you’re beautiful. And it’s not just
simple words of reassurance, either. He’ll be able to sense when you think
you’re having a bad hair day, and make it a point to compliment your ‘do. He’ll
come up with ways to make you feel beautiful, inside and out, regardless of how
you feel at the time. He’ll do whatever he can to make you see yourself as he
sees you each and every day.
6. He makes your problems his own.
If something’s bothering you, it bothers him. He
will take on your problems and try to figure out ways to solve them, or at
least get through them with the least amount of pain possible. Your issues keep
him up at night, but that doesn’t bother him. What does bother him is
when you’re facing a problem that he can’t help you with. When these situations
inevitably arise, he does the best he can by standing by your side no matter
what.
7. He laughs at your mistakes.
He knows everyone makes mistakes, and he’s able to
shrug yours off easily. If you say something that offended him, he knows you
didn’t mean it. He’ll laugh it off, even if it did sting a little. If you let
him down in some way (like you had to stay late at work even though he had a
nice dinner planned), he won’t hold it against you. He may be caring and
sensitive, but he’ll never make you feel bad for unintentionally hurting his
feelings.
8. He takes his own mistakes seriously.
On the other hand, anything he does that ends up
hurting you will weigh heavy on his shoulders for a long while. He rarely beats
himself up about much, but when he causes you pain, he’ll do anything to right
his wrongs. He’ll never tell his love to “lighten up” or that he “was only
kidding.” He knows you enough to know exactly what to do to harm you, but he
would never in a million years dream of doing so.
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