Losing things is often painted with negative
connotations. As humans, we tend to hold onto things in all areas of our lives
— our jobs, relationships, friendships, and even our control over situations.
But is this healthy in terms of our wellbeing and
overall happiness? Living in the present moment is the best way to obtain a
happy and fulfilling life, which means we have to let go of the past and lose
things in life in order to grow as a person.
While it’s sometimes difficult, we should never
think negatively about changes we face. In fact, we should see them as
opportunities to grow and seek new and interesting paths. Here are 4 important
things to lose in your life that will expand your mindset, perspective, and
ultimately help you become a better person.
1. Losing Your Direction
Most of us get to a stage in life when we question
our motives, our past and present actions, and our true happiness. When we go
through this, it can feel extremely overwhelming, sometimes depressing, and we
feel lost about what our life purpose really is. Perhaps you question your
direction of career or feel you’ve missed out on pursuing your dream because
you’re too old. What we need to remember is that it’s these times that are
actually there to help us figure out our true path in life; whether we’re on the
right one or if we need to find something different.
When we fall into negative situations, they are
there to show us that we need to rethink, readjust, and walk down a more
suitable and happy road. Don’t ever think that you’re a failure because you haven’t
figured it all out yet — everything happens at the right time and it’s these
moments in life when we lose direction that we are being told to reprogram
because a different path may be more beneficial to us.
If we don’t lose direction every now and then, we
don’t get the opportunity to grow, change, and pursue avenues that could lead
to ultimate happiness.
2. Losing Touch With Others
While having many people in our life can bring a
great dimension to our wellbeing and happiness, we often hold onto those
relationships that no longer serve us. Sentimentality can cause us keep certain
people in our lives — they remind us of the good times, they were an intrinsic
part of our lives once or shared happy memories. However, over time we change
and grow as people — our tastes, attitudes, dreams, and directions in life
can change either subtly or dramatically and this can mean drifting away from
once-important people.
As sad as this may feel, losing the (what seems
like) never-ending connections with our friends can be a valuable life lesson.
It teaches us the importance of quality over quantity, it helps us let go of
those that don’t bring any growth into our lives, and it can show us that the
past is the past but we’re now living in the present.
Holding onto past, fading relationships only stunts
us in our efforts to simply be in the present. By losing touch with people and
letting them go, we are able to cherish what they contributed rather than
feeling a sense of negativity and sadness that they are no longer a bigger part
of our lives.
3. Losing Yourself
Life is all about losing ourselves, changing
ourselves, and growing according to our ever-evolving experiences, mindsets,
and perspectives. Change is inevitable, but sometimes we can hold onto our old
selves, perhaps even wishing we were how we used to be.
The reality is that there is no fixed us. We
are constantly adapting to an ever-changing world and our changes are just a
sign of progression in this journey of life. To lose yourself means
experiencing and opening up to different experiences, such as travelling,
studying, moving abroad, or changing careers, and marching head-on into your
fears and coming out the other side. Everything we do that challenges the way
we think and view the world allows us to lose a small part of our old self and
create a new, improved person. This constant evolution allows us to truly find
our happiness.
4. Losing Control Over Things
Uncertainty is a fear that most of us have. By
dealing with this, we tend to try and control situations or even people. While
we’re young, we believe we have much more control in life than we think, but as
we get older and we gain more life experiences, we realise that most things in
life are out of our control. Life is constantly changing and nothing really
stays the same. This means we can either adapt to the changes or they float out
of our existence.
While sometimes we desperately hold onto things such
as relationships, jobs, and general life situations, this only serves as a trap
that keeps us locked in our comfort zones. When we’re in this space, there is
little room to grow or seek other opportunities that we’d otherwise ignore or
be unwilling to pursue.
For example, imagine you’re made redundant from your
job. While this is initially seen as a bad situation, you come to realise that
if you were truly honest with yourself, you weren’t really passionate about
your job anymore and this “bad” situation that was out of your control is
actually giving you the opportunity to find a job much more suitable and
enjoyable — which you may not have done if the redundancy hadn’t happened.
Embracing the fact that you have little control may
seem like a scary thought, but it’s these times that open up opportunities for
us that we wouldn’t ordinarily take or pursue.
So never be afraid of change and losing things in
life. While it may sometimes seem like life is against you in these situations,
they are really just amazing opportunities in disguise.
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