Happy Family Secret No. 8: Build and
Honor Rituals
"Families need rituals,. Rituals can be religious,
national, or even family-specific,
"Happy
families have meaningful rituals and are not stressed out by them," she
says. "They can be unique to your own family such as going for bagels on
Saturday morning, a weekly pizza night, or even a family song. Rituals tend to
bring family members close together because they are repeated over time."
Happy Family Secret No. 9: Keep Your
Voices Down
Remember that children thrive on stability. "There
has to be a calm environment at home,". "Talk to your kids, give them
strict rules, and punish children when necessary, but don't lose control and
yell. If you yell at kids, that shows you are out of control and you create a
non peaceful environment."
Happy Family Secret No. 10: Never
Fight in Front of the Kids
. "If your kids see you fight and argue, apologize
and say, 'We are sorry you had to see it. Daddy and I just had a disagreement,
but everything is OK now.'"
Happy Family Secret No. 11: Don't
Work Too Much
All work and no play does worse things to a family than
make it dull. "If you are away all the time and don't prioritize your
kids, your kids will internalize feelings of insecurity," They'll begin to
believe that they're not valuable enough.
Happy Family Secret No. 12: Encourage
Sibling Harmony
Sibling rivalry can be divisive. "I try to speak
to my kids about how fortunate they are to have siblings,"
Happy Family Secret No. 13: Have
Private Jokes
Happy families have inside jokes, Syracuse's Fiese says,
"Jokes and nicknames symbolize that this is a group that you belong to and
serves as a shorthand for larger experiences,"
Happy Family Secret No. 14: Be
Flexible
"This is easier said than done," "But by
their very nature, families change so you have to be open to change in
membership and age," "Somebody gets married, somebody dies, somebody
remarries and teenagers are no longer children and young adults are no longer
teenagers, but they are all still part of the family."
Happy Family Secret No. 15:
Communicate
happy family communicate with one another.
"Frequently families are set up where everyone tells the mom and then the
mom sends the message, but in a happy family, there are more flexible, open
lines of communication."
In happy families, "all the members of family unit
are able to communicate openly,"
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