The wreckage of the LAMIA airlines charter plane
carrying members of the Chapecoense Real football team is seen after it crashed
in the mountains of Cerro Gordo, municipality of La Union, on November 29,
2016. A charter plane carrying the Brazilian football team crashed in the
mountains in Colombia late Monday, killing as many as 75 people.
Welcome to my blog where we discuss everyday issues, challenges and opportunities abound.
Tuesday, 29 November 2016
Negative Actions? Change for the Better
Take responsibility for your thoughts and
actions. You alone are in control of your life and many of the negative situations
and negative thoughts you harbor are influenced directly by you. By taking
responsibility for your actions, you can begin to remove negativity in your
life and create positivity.
Obsession Not Love
I have learned that when we need someone
in order to exist and our body aches when that person is not around, it is not
love, it is obsession. It is about us thinking a particular person has the
power to rescue us. And we want to be rescued because we don’t trust our own
ability to take care of and provide ourselves with a rich life.
Monday, 28 November 2016
Don’t Live A Life Of Endless Excuses, Personal Weaknesses Are What Urges Us To Be Stronger
How many times have you caught yourself trying to
blame everyone and everything else for your shortcomings, when in reality, you
just couldn’t sum up the courage to face your weaknesses head on? In order to
fulfill our goals, we don’t need to “conquer the world” and be better than
everyone else. All we have to do is master ourselves and work on becoming the
best version of ourselves by overcoming our weaknesses.
In working towards self-improvement, we often turn
to finding inspiration in others who have made it. There is something
comforting in knowing that today’s leaders in their niche were once a
work-in-progress just like ourselves with many personal obstacles and struggles
to face.
Courage to Live - Do not quit before you're finished
"The world will always give you the opportunity to quit, but only the world would call quitting an opportunity" (Clint Brown). One of the most powerful success principles ever preached is "Never , never, never give up!" (Winston Churchill).
A lazy man is always judged by what he doesn't do. The choice of giving up or going on is a defining moment in your life. Nobody and nothing can keep you down unless
Room For Self-Improvement
Have you ever noticed how many people you know who are literally at the same place today as they were five years ago? They still have the same dreams, the same problems, the same alibis, the same opportunities. They are standing still in life.
It's as if people unplug their clocks at a certain point in time and stay at that fixed moment the rest of their lives. You are destined to grow, learn and improve.
Friday, 25 November 2016
6 Things Men Learned from Cheating......... by LODRO RINZLER
All things pointed out here are based on interviews and sessions with some men, But there's one resounding similarity to all of
their answers.
"I
may not be the stand-up guy I thought I was."
Several guys I interviewed realized that, while they had always thought of themselves as good and honorable men, they were just as prone to cheating as other people.
Several guys I interviewed realized that, while they had always thought of themselves as good and honorable men, they were just as prone to cheating as other people.
Discovering Your God-Given Purpose
Do you feel like a fish out of water? Your prolonged
dissatisfaction, God-given gifts, passions and the voices of others could be
telling you that you were created for another purpose. And like a fish out of
water, if you feel like you are dying inside, listen up. It could be just what
you need to push you into another, more satisfying ocean.
9 Health Benefit of Banana
Bananas are extremely healthy and delicious.
They contain several essential nutrients, and have
benefits for digestion, heart health and weight
loss.
Aside from being very nutritious, they are also a
highly convenient snack food.
Here are 9 health benefits of bananas that are
supported by scientific research.
Thursday, 24 November 2016
The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets In Too Deep
Question No. 1: What Are Your Short-Term Goals?
If you're going to get into a relationship with a
man, you should know what his plans are and how they fit into the key elements
that make a man—who he is, what he does, and how much he makes. These three
things, as I've already told you, are extremely important to any mature, grown
man, and you have every right to know what he's doing right now, and what he's
planning over the next three to five years, to be the real, grown man he wants
to be. His answer
22 Things to Remember If You Love Someone with Depression
You’re in love with this wonderful person–a man who
truly gets you, or a woman who makes you laugh every day. There’s a
kind of connection you feel in your solar plexus and you know this is someone
you want to stay with, be loyal to, and love with your whole heart.
Your relationship grows and deepens. But after
a while, something seems not quite right with your beloved. Maybe he
snapped at a waiter over nothing, which he’s never done before. Or maybe
she has started to doubt that you love her, which makes no sense because you’re
more in love with her than ever.
Wednesday, 23 November 2016
BAKASSI HOSTEL ON FIRE
One of the hostels in Yaba college of Technology, Bakassi hostel was on fire earlier this morning, our correspondent tried to know the cause of the fire outburst but nobody seem to have known what caused the fire, the entire building got burnt down before Fire Fighters could show up. Few casualties were recorded, All belongings were also burnt. Some of the students who were in shock all fainted and are currently at the medical centre for treatment, the rest of the occupant are all still in shock as to what had happened.
Tuesday, 22 November 2016
Ebony Foods!! Your Food is Just a Call Away
Want some of these? Place your order at Cinienpastries for sumptuous pastries
Cakes are special, every birthdays, every celebration ends with something sweet, a cake and people to remember. It's all about memories.
Cinienpastries is poised to create lasting memories by providing you with exquisite cake designs and a delicious taste. We make your imaginary taste a reality!!!
More pictures after the cut.......
Monday, 21 November 2016
5 Steps to Get Creative Again
Each of us has a ‘creative bone’ in our body, even
the ones who insist that they don’t. The only problem is that we rarely find
time to tap into our creativity. Even when we finally make a decision of making
time for something creative, it’s hard to determine what to start with! There
are so many possibilities, so many classes available in any community. What do
we start off with?
Here are 5 steps to get creative again:
Sex and Healthy Relationship
In a healthy relationship, both partners are able to
express their feelings and respect each other’s boundaries about sex. You
shouldn’t have to have sex to keep your partner. You may feel comfortable
kissing or holding hands but not want to go any further. That’s ok.
Deciding whether you want to have sex or when you
should is a decision you should make when it feels right for YOU. In a healthy
relationship, your partner respects your decisions, even when they don’t
like them.
If you are thinking about when to have sex, keep in
mind:
This Is How You Become Unattractive And You’re Not Aware of It
Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring,
and compassionate. But for some people, that’s not always the case. There are
many behaviors or ‘bad habits’ that people have that make them seem
unattractive, annoying, or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few
of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen
to realize that you embody any of them – quit! You might find your circle of
friends grow once you do.
Friday, 18 November 2016
4 Steps to Managing Your Emotional Life
No one would argue against the idea that our
emotions trip us up often in life. The reason they have such powerful sway over
us is not immediately clear. We have been conditioned in the West to believe
that our decisions are made by our rational mind, so when emotions seem to take
hold of our behavior, we simply cannot understand why.
While many people assume that reason arises from
deliberate, conscious thinking, the truth is, people are more likely to feel
before they think. Consequently, your decision-making process is quick,
emotional, and subconscious. As Dan Hill in his book
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They
manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for
success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so
that you too can become more mentally strong.
1. They Don’t
Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling
sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead,
14 Signs Someone Is Always Playing The Victim
What do all humans have in common?
We have all played the victim before. How many of us
have blamed our little sister or brother for breaking a family heirloom? I know
I have. How many of us have pointed the finger at our co-worker for screwing
something up at work? But, playing the victim is like eating bad food- it will
only make you feel worse in the long run.
Here’s the bottom line: people that believe they are
victims tend to push friends, family and coworkers away.
Let’s look at 14 signs that someone is playing the
victim card and what they need to do instead:
Wednesday, 16 November 2016
Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways
We’ve all been there; you meet someone, fall in love
and the romance blossoms. So after that initial honeymoon period ends, what
next? It’s so easy to slip back into the comfortable stage, life takes over and
commitments pile up, leaving very little time to enjoy each other’s company.
Keeping the romance alive doesn’t mean you have to
always give massive tokens of love or go through the motions with traditional
gestures at birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. The little things all count
and something simple can give you that little moment of intimacy, perfect to
rekindle your romance, when life gets in the way.
Mastering The Art of Timing
7 Simple and Useful Health Tips that Help in Leading Healthy Life
For a healthy life, it is imperative to take care of
your body. Keeping a check on your weight is one way of maintaining a healthy
lifestyle. Obesity has become a current issue, and it is important to pay
particular attention to the diet and indulge in some physical activity. You do
not need to spoil your happiness because of unnecessary problems related to
health. The lifespan of your vital organs such as liver, lungs, stomach, etc.
is increased by eating healthy. Healthy and relaxed life does not just include
a balanced diet and exercising but also a positive mindset.
Here are a few tips for leading a safe and healthy
life:
6 Love Lessons I Learnt From My Mother
My parents separated when I was just 15 after a
turbulent marriage. To say divorce was the best thing for them is an
understatement. While my father flung himself head first into a rebound fling
that later resulted in another marriage, my mother took a higher approach, she
set off into the world and she found herself.
Maybe it was my young impressionable age or my
parents drastically different approaches to life and love that influenced me;
but as the older I’ve got, the more I’ve seemed to admire my mum’s non
tolerance to bullshit in relationships. To date, she taught me some of the most
valuable lessons I could have ever learnt when it comes to matters of the
heart. Here are 6 love lessons I learnt from my mother.
How to Get Out of A Life Slump and Defeat The Blues
Once upon a time, I was severely ignorant towards
people who called themselves depressed, and I was harsh and angry at them
because I thought of it as if it were the simplest excuse they could possibly find.
Now, I can honestly say that this isn’t something you should learn from your
own experience.
By nature, I’m a cynic and a pessimist, which only
made it easy for depression to get to me – if you have a mindset similar to
mine, you should know that you’re an easy target as well.
Tuesday, 15 November 2016
Never Settle in Your Quest for Love. You Deserve More.
I will never let fear guide me in my search for love
and make me accept anything less that the real thing. Instead, I will trust
myself and listen to my heart, because there lay all the answers. No logic can
explain how love happens; even though we try to put it in scientific terms, it
defies logical laws. It can only be felt. Therefore, I will let love guide me
and trust the process of life, instead of trying to rush it by settling for an
unfulfilling relationship for fear of being alone or not going through
important milestones “on time.”
Don’t Surrender To Any Definitions — You Can Decide Who You Are
A lot of the time, we are forced to define ourselves
by other people’s ideas and perspectives. We seem to care too much about what
other people think of us and live our lives pleasing or conforming to what
society as a whole tells us is right.
Embrace Your Little Faults. They Are What Defines You.
How much of our lives have we dedicated to
perfection? The straight A’s, the beach bodies, the perfect scores; the list
goes on. Striving towards perfection and then not achieving it can lead to
depression, unhealthy mood swings, and self-deprecating doubt. These
frustrations pile on, and eventually, a perfectionist may find themselves
struggling to accept themselves.
If a person can’t accept who they are, they lose
sight of their selves, and then, seek out ways to sculpt who they are supposed
to be. I am a straight A student. I am a size zero. I achieved
one-hundred percent. Underneath all those titles expressed through
accomplishments, who is the person who achieved all those things? They couldn’t
have possibly made it through without having made some mistakes and being
imperfect in other things. Faults and flaws are what make individuals different
from each other.
Monday, 14 November 2016
How To Effectively Communicate With A Hypersensitive Spouse 2
4. Paraphrase
When you get the chance to answer or tell them how
you feel, make sure you paraphrase what they have just told you. They will feel
that you were intently listening and that you empathize with how they feel.
One-word answers are not enough. I know this because I was the king
of one-word answers. Paraphrase first, then reply to their question or
statement. This also lets them know that you understand them and that you
aren’t just trying to fix the issue at hand. They need a lot of this because it
helps them figure their own thoughts and feelings out.
How To Effectively Communicate With A Hypersensitive Spouse
BY JAY CHANTHALANGSY
I love my wife. She is a beautiful, caring, and
loving person. She has taught me a great deal about myself and how I
communicate.
You see, I wasn’t always a sensitive person. I was raised
to be tough and numb to feelings. I kept all feelings inside because I was not
allowed to express them. My father was strict and to him feelings
were nothing more than a sign of weakness. Imagine over 20 years of that
type of conditioning!
As an adult, I had a difficult time expressing my
true feelings to anyone because of my lack of experience with sharing while I
was growing up. I do not at all place all blame on my dad — he came from
an upbringing that was identical to mine, so to raise me this way was all he
knew.
In my relationships, I struggled
5 Signs You Blame Other People For Your Problems
We learn as children that becoming an adult
entails maturity, responsibility, and problem solving. We assume that when we
finally reach adulthood, we will naturally encompass all of these traits. Yet,
the ability to remain accountable in life proves elusive to many adults, though
we may not be aware of this fact.
Generally, there are two types of people in this
world: those that blame others for how they feel and the predicament they are
in, and those that take accountability for their situation and focus on problem
solving. Of course we know which group we think we are in, but what
group are we really in? Here are five signs that you blame other
people for your problems.
5 Ways to Get Motivated When You’re Feeling Lazy
Picture this: you have a mile-long to-do list
and three hundred goals you’re working towards achieving. You know you
should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything. It’s hard to
stay focused and you’re just so unmotivated. Sound familiar? If your answer is
yes, just know that you’re not alone.
Honestly, everyone has days like this. I know I do.
Sometimes we don’t feel good, sometimes we’re feeling overwhelmed by all of the
work that’s in front of us, sometimes we’re in a bad mood, or sometimes we’re
just feeling lazy. But no matter
Friday, 11 November 2016
10 Signs You’re Raised By A Strong Mom
A strong mom isn’t only strong on herself. She makes
you strong as well, and even stronger than herself. They don’t teach you
what the society teaches you. They teach you to be yourself and go for what you
want. Without them, you won’t be at where you are today.
Here are 10 signs you’re raised by a strong mom:
8 Truths That “Moms Of Boys” Realize (Sooner Or Later)
BY MICHELLE HOMME
Moms of boys are a different breed and they have
different rules. Having raised three boys of my own, I have learned a few
things in the past 25 years that was never in the “what to expect” books when
they were little. There is just something different in a house full of
testosterone and non-stop activity. Maybe that child’s nursery rhyme about what
“little boys are made of” had a little truth in it after all.
The mothers of sons and only sons quickly learn
these 8 truths…whether they want to or not.
17 Signs You Have The Coolest Mom In The World
I don’t know about you, but my mom is seriously one
of the coolest people out there.
She’s always been there to make me laugh, wipe away
my tears, and help me become the person I am today.
Is your mom super cool? Here are some signs that you
are ridiculously lucky to have your mom around.
7 Things to Give up If You Really Want Your Kids to Be Great
It’s possible to parent your kids a little too
carefully.
Every good parent wants to be active in their
children’s lives and set them up for future success. However, there’s a fine
line between sticking to appropriate boundaries, making constructive
suggestions, and over-parenting your child. Stifling kids with too many rules
and expectations can lower their confidence and creativity. Here are seven
things you must give up to ensure that your children grow up healthy, happy,
and free to be themselves rather than tire themselves mentally and physically
trying to live up to the expectations you place upon them.
Thursday, 10 November 2016
Adult Life Is Full Of Irony, But You Can Choose To Live It At Your Own Pace
When we were kids, we couldn’t wait to reach the
adulthood where all the things seemed awesome, like not having to wait for
pocket money, or go to bed early. However, when we finally reached that desired
age, we see that it’s not always so awesome and that there are much more
responsibilities than we thought. You earn your money, but don’t have time to
spend it. You go to bed late because of being busy, but you want to sleep
early.
A talented artist Shenanigansen from
Massachusetts brilliantly illustrates everyday struggles of growing up. Yet,
all those seemingly serious problems and dilemmas can be overcome if you decide
to consider them from a different point of view. Yes, there are some situations
that seem like an ironic twist, but in every such situation there is a lesson
to learn which can help you at some point in your life.
The Thief In All Of Us
Have you ever held back on taking a step towards
your career just because you thought of all the bad things that could go wrong?
“What if I failed? What if people never get to
appreciate me? What if I die before I ever become known in my career?”
Have you ever changed plans on doing that one thing
you felt would finally give you the liberation you seek just because the
thought of being rejected invaded your mind? Have you ever denied yourself of
totally being in love with someone because you felt you were not good enough
for them and that fear kept you from bonding with them? If this sounds like
you, then you might have a thief living deep inside your mind, and his or her
name is Fear.
5 Simple Ways to Unplug and Be More Mindful In Your Life
In a world that is driven by constant innovation in
technology and our innate need to want more and more in life, at what
point does the society plateau or get comfortable at what is? Probably
NEVER! Remember playing outside until the sun went down, leisurely trips
to the local library to pick out books for the week, and having to look things
up in the encyclopedia? Nowadays, it seems as though the world is at
our fingertips making life so much easier. Or is it?
7 Secrets of Healthy People
Healthy people do not just wake up one day to a fit
body and clear mind. Real health involves a commitment to a healthy lifestyle,
and for many people this means making some changes in their physical and mental
approach to everyday life. Here are seven top ways healthy people get that way
and stay that way.
1. They Make
Sure to Get Good Quality Sleep
Sleep is a cornerstone of mental and physical well
being. The time spent sleeping is not as idle as it might seem. During a good
night’s rest, the body can direct its energy towards healing and repairing the
system. It releases
Wednesday, 9 November 2016
15 Things Really Successful People Want You to Know
Here's what you should know about looking polishing,
productivity and spotting a good opportunity you should take.
Not
to Sweat the Small Stuff
The thing that's grand about spending your time
thinking about the universe is that it makes you feel insignificant. I don't
mean that in a bad way. If you understand that we've now discovered entire
solar systems that contain planets similar to Earth, and that those are just
the ones we know about, since
#AmericaDecides: Donald Trump leads Hillary Clinton 136-104 in the race to 270 electoral votes
Republican candidate Donald Trump is currently
leading Democratic candidate Hillary Clinton in the race to 270 electoral
votes.
Trump currently has 136 votes as against Clinton’s
104.
More to follow….
Tuesday, 8 November 2016
Saved by Grace
I woke up one morning (sometime last week) feeling
very bitter and sad, why! you ask? I really
don’t know, but I feel something is missing in me, I feel very low in spirit, I
feel bitter toward so many things, I snap at the smallest thing, things that
don’t count, things that are not worth it, I tried to pray and meditate on the
word of God, I found it difficult.
Monday, 7 November 2016
Fight the Good Fight: Turn Spats Into Solutions
Want to dial down the unhealthy drama in your
relationship? You can, once you know how to defuse blow-up arguments and
unresolved feuds.
“Massive, all-out fights are bad for you. They make your heart race, cause
stress, and can trigger issues like migraines,” says psychotherapist
Jonathan Alpert. “On the other hand, learning to have good conversations keeps
your relationship healthy.”
Here are six ways to ensure your next argument has a
good outcome.
10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex
1. Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
“Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says
Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert.
People who have sex have higher levels of what
defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at
Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once
or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to
students who had sex less often.
You should still do all the other things that make
your immune system happy, such as:
Letting Go of That Ego Before It Gets Hold of You
I confess, sometimes that head swims in the clouds
and I prance about quite happy and headless. Doesn’t even take much for the
head to go loose, a little success, a few possessions, some consistent compliments,
and there it flies away to glory, on its own trip to what mostly turns out to
be disaster.
So much is written about boosting self confidence,
but what happens when you go overboard, when you start valuing yourself a bit
too much and the confidence goes into overdrive, giving way to that big ugly
ego. That’s the thing about ego, it’s never small, and it’s never pretty. It
eats away at every single aspect of our lives. The enemy you sleep with until,
well, until no one really wants to sleep with you, or work with you, or have
anything to do with you.
Saturday, 5 November 2016
Enter Action With Boldness
Funke Akindele and hubby JJC gorgeous at the premiere of Jenifa in London
Actress Funke Akindele (Jenifa) looked gorgeous and
(cough cough) ...as she and her husband, JJC Skillz walked the red carpet at
the London premiere of her new movie, Jenifa in London. Another photo after the
cut..
Friday, 4 November 2016
How to Stop Surviving and Start Doing What You Love
Clock in. Clock out. Head home. Repeat. Millions
of people follow this same predictable pattern for years, or even decades. And
while there’s nothing wrong with punching a clock and making an honest living,
isn’t there more to life? Isn’t there something you’re passionate about that
you’d rather spend 40 hours of your week doing?
Here are a few practical tips that will allow you to
start living your life the way it was meant to be lived, by doing what you
love.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)