We Matter

 One of the many lessons I have  learnt so far from everything happening around us now (From the pandemic down to the protest and how the government choose to react) is that We are Powerful, Powerful in and out more than we know. 

While reflecting on how powerful we are as an individual and also as a body,  this song from Jussie Smollett and Alicia Keys came to mind

and the meaning become more clear to me on a deeper level. 

 Lyrics

Powerful,  there's so much strength in you and me 

Powerful,  A breath away from victory

I matter

You matter

We matter

We are indeed Powerful and We all Matter

©Valerie Nwoji

Negativity Begat More Problem Rather Than Solution

I remember when I was working on a particular project back in school,  for each solution I provided then,  I had this friend that kept saying,  "I don't think this solution will work". He kept giving me more problems to each solution I provided.  Eventually I got tired and did not work on that project. 

Being the kind of lady I was, (I detest giving up,  I always wanted to say I tried but failed or I tried and succeeded)  I took up that project again but this time went straight to my lecturer and asked for some advice, he told me what to do,  then I went to another course mate of mine (Alex) and he gave me 1001 other ways to get the project done and even offered to help if I needed anything else. 

Eventually,  I got the project done successfully😀

Now,  the message here is.  Move away from negative people because they always have problems to every solution you provide.

PS: (Don't discard  negative people totally because most times,  their words make you want to achieve more and be better for yourself).

© Valerie Amaka Nwoji

MEN ARE NOT APP

You  can't download a man from palm play or  play store! 

Haven't you stay too long in your unnecessary confinement? 

Few men with unusual balls could have the the audacity to knock on your door and ask after you from your parents, especially from your dad. 

Haven't you learnt that Rebecca had to go to the well to tend water to some stranger's camel before she could meet her destiny husband? 

Enough of all these extra dignity charades and obtuse disappearing act from where your beauty can be seen! 

If church could have the capacity to tender spiritual needs, then why appear there physically and in your best outfit? 

My dear, maximize your potential to your full benefits. Flaunt what you've got but with utmost modesty. 

It is time to be at your best since every first impression matters. 

The eyes   see faster than the heart! 

Why sit under shades when the sun is enough for drying? 

Gone are the days that your over inquisitiveness and stringent attitude will be a yardstick for choosing a God fearing and ready made husband material. 

The millennial man has a short fuse, average perseverance and low tolerance for extreme stringency by female folks. 

Get up girl and put up the desired appearance.

Let these son of Abraham sees the Sarah lying beneath you. 

Lastly, be realistic in your expectations. 

Don't be desperate but exploit spaces to your advantage. 

Expect the least and embrace the likely. 

 *MEN ARE NOT APP* 

©️ *Adeniyi* *Simeon*

THE STORY OF LAGOS

Dear devout Lagosians, on the strength of the torturous experience people endure nowadays, i want you to keep in mind that,  some have promised or better yet planning to move out of Lagos only to return when the need arises probably to grace an occasion or for an official assignment/engagement.

And it is not even as if the easthetics on the Victoria Island is really appealing anymore like that. 

Let a torrential rainfall that lasts 20 minutes engulf its terrain and watch everywhere transmogrify into a swimming pool. 

 *Traffic and flood... The story of Lagos*

©️ *Adeniyi Simeon*

Saying No Doesn't Mean You're Bad

Saying yes is a good thing mostly. But learning how to set boundaries & say no when the need calls for it is key to healthy relationships with others & yourself! Saying yes to everyone leads to stress, being overwhelmed & burned out. So listen to your body & don’t feel guilty! Avoid overthinking. Don’t read too much into things.

Don’t delve and dig into something looking for issues when there are none or at least not obvious. Don’t complicate things when they’re really quite simple and easily understood. Remember, simplicity is part of faith.How often do you stop and think of just how blessed you are? The constant desire for more prevents us from being truly content with what we already have.

Learn to be grateful for where you are in your life right now. Try it. You will see the difference! Gratitude is key!

Early Morning Thoughts

 Rise above hate and flee from the intuition that everyone dislikes you. 

Stop playing the insecurity game!

Irrespective of your gender, religion and ethnicity. Stop roaming under the caution that you might be hunted. 

Being a Nigerian is scary enough for us to contend with. It should warrant pity when included in any Cvs ( Curriculum Vitae) 

Just don't fan the flame of hatred lest it becomes an inferno. 

Getting too conscious can deprive you of that necessary freedom, sometimes, learn to enjoy criticism. 

It gives you a pretty idea of where you stand. 

Nevertheless, enjoy yourself per time, make restitutions and be resolute. 

©️ *Adeniyi Simeon*

The Proposal

Some of us couldn't or rather not all men will go down on their knees to propose. 

It is neither pride nor a misogynistic idea but the truth we've not come to embrace. Enough of this lofty dreams surrounding proposals in recent times. 

I still want to know the rationale behind women wanting their men to go down on their knees and propose in a broad-day light like a pre-planned drama. You just want to scream and pepper your friends by your numerous uploads right? Or you feel your dignity is justified as a lady for a man to drop his ego and pop your most anticipated and so called the big question with a bended knee? 

It is not written anywhere in the book of affection that a man who does all these things makes a good man or a good father, at least not that i know of. So what the heck? 

Let your man do this in his own discretion. It shouldn't be your template, script or act. 

Dear beautiful, you don't have to copy friends to pressure your man to do some certain things. This public show sometimes leads to disgrace. What about preferring your man to send a post-man to deliver your ring with a beautiful note that expresses his affection? Why don't you prefer him to surprise you in the committee of friends without causing much public traffic? What is strong in him expressing his heartfelt words over a table-for-two? 

Be more creative than being a public disaster!

Some of we men prefer the secrecy, we believe all that stays there thrives. Never a weakness as most of you presume!  Isn't it still better to choose the old-bride format devoid of drama and trauma by not exposing unnecessary lots for public consumption? 

He is on his knees or not is never a determinant for his truest character. Love and its proposal comes in different format, see beyond the conveyor but his message. It pays sometimes to drop the unnecessary expectations and the shenanigans of proposals. 

The 'must-do' script  you've already written and acted in your mind. Who cares what happened during the proposal? Your critics will still show for your party rice. 

The earlier you know it's both of you against the world, the better. 

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©️  *Adeniyi Simeon*

You Are Greater Than You Know

Monday's Motivation

Whatever has a definition has a limitation. God can't be defined, he is just too mighty, he cannot live inside me and I remain small, for greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world.

I just want to share with us this morning that,  whatever it is you think you can't do or can't achieve, always remember that God cannot be the ruler of your life and you remain at a spot.

The power to carry on,  the grace and inspiration to achieve things,  God is ever ready to grant it unto you. 

Tell yourself this simple but powerful words today and always;

I am untouchable, unseeable, unholdable and unblockable, but you can not deny my impact in your life.

Amaka Nwoji

Self Discovery coach 

Content Writer

Relationship Mentor

IT'S ALWAYS TOO SOON TO QUIT

Failure is only final if you let it be. The key is to learn from our failures. The man who has never made a mistake has never made anything. Learn to say "I'm down, but not out".

Vincent Lombardi said; "It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up again".

Failing so many times should not bother you, but failing and not getting back up on your feet should. For every mountain - there is always someone at the top managing that mountain. Learn to climb that mountain and get to the top, don't relent till you get to the top of that mountain.

Edison failed at his first 1,000 attempt to develop a light bulb. When asked if he was discouraged, he replied " No, I am now well informed on 1,000 ways you cannot do it".

The greatest failure in life is to stop trying

Note that; 

1. To fail is not to be a failure - Remember winning isn't always being first.

2. Once you've learned from your failures, forget them.

3. You are never a failure as long as you keep trying - better to fail attempting great deeds than attempt nothing and succeed.

4. Failure is never final - unless you allow it to be. The choice is yours to make, you can either play it safe or get up and fight another round.

Your desire for excellence will always want you to appear excellent

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LOVE ALL NOT GENDER SUPPORT

In my opinion,  the chant "women supporting women" is just a gaslighting and manipulative statement as far as I'm concerned. 

I would not support *ANYONE* man or woman if your values or whatever you're doing does not align with the values of God's Truth And Righteousness that i subscribe to (And i expect the same of others towards me too which is why i can't find myself begging anyone to support me) 

It is good to support women, men or anyone irrespective of gender, race or class, but my support is not going to be because you're a particular gender but because i can truly support whatever it is you represent without searing and going against my conscience. 

What we owe everyone is "Love" *NOT* "Support"

Stop feeling entitled to people's support. 

In this life, some people are called to support you and some are not, it is not that they don't like you, what you do or what you represent as a brand, they just aren't called to support you.

Take no hard feelings *QED.* 

So, do yourself a favour and live without feeling entitled to the support of others and especially for all the wrong reasons, such as gender.

©️ *Adeniyi Simeon*

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