Some of us couldn't or rather not all men will go down on their knees to propose.
It is neither pride nor a misogynistic idea but the truth we've not come to embrace. Enough of this lofty dreams surrounding proposals in recent times.
I still want to know the rationale behind women wanting their men to go down on their knees and propose in a broad-day light like a pre-planned drama. You just want to scream and pepper your friends by your numerous uploads right? Or you feel your dignity is justified as a lady for a man to drop his ego and pop your most anticipated and so called the big question with a bended knee?
It is not written anywhere in the book of affection that a man who does all these things makes a good man or a good father, at least not that i know of. So what the heck?
Let your man do this in his own discretion. It shouldn't be your template, script or act.
Dear beautiful, you don't have to copy friends to pressure your man to do some certain things. This public show sometimes leads to disgrace. What about preferring your man to send a post-man to deliver your ring with a beautiful note that expresses his affection? Why don't you prefer him to surprise you in the committee of friends without causing much public traffic? What is strong in him expressing his heartfelt words over a table-for-two?
Be more creative than being a public disaster!
Some of we men prefer the secrecy, we believe all that stays there thrives. Never a weakness as most of you presume! Isn't it still better to choose the old-bride format devoid of drama and trauma by not exposing unnecessary lots for public consumption?
He is on his knees or not is never a determinant for his truest character. Love and its proposal comes in different format, see beyond the conveyor but his message. It pays sometimes to drop the unnecessary expectations and the shenanigans of proposals.
The 'must-do' script you've already written and acted in your mind. Who cares what happened during the proposal? Your critics will still show for your party rice.
The earlier you know it's both of you against the world, the better.
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©️ *Adeniyi Simeon*
Thanks for speaking for the Men-hood Ma. This has been on my mind for a while now. Why all the embarrassment and all the ladies are spooning out to men? It is one thing to propose and the other is the endurance for the partners to be able to glide the rough water they want to dive into, getting to know and understand each other because they are enrolling into a school that has no end but if they lack trust and honesty they might dropout or fail repeatedly.
ReplyDeleteYou don't need public acceptance but the blessing and divine guidance of the Almighty, that is what matter most for marriage, not all the social media likes.
Thanks for your honest opinion. I love the part you said, marriage is not for public acceptance and social media likes.
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