THE DILEMA OF THE FIRST BORN. part 2

The Responsibility

As FIBI, you are expected to be the next authority figure in the house. When the parents leave, you are expected to be the ‘man of the house’ or ‘woman of the house’.You are expected to be in check of your siblings at all times. And if they do not behave, you are the one to take the blame. All this on your small head. As FIBI, when you get a junior brother or sister you are expected to nurture them as well. You are supposed to be the ‘third parent’ of the kids. 

Make sure to curb your instant reactions to things that make you highly emotional—whether it is good or bad. Sure, it’s OK to be yourself and show enthusiasm. But remember that good leaders and well-respected people know the difference between responding and reacting. The latter is not a good habit.

THE DILEMA OF THE FIRST BORN. part one

This post goes out to all firstborns in African households. By firstborn I mean that you are a first child in that family (the first to be born), and as a first child there are things you go through that other children just won’t understand, Others will not feel your pain, 

Ways You Can Earn The Respect Of Others

You want to be respected, but you’re not sure how this whole thing works. The key here is to stop focusing on you, and start thinking about others. How can you help others? How can you inspire change, growth, and innovation? When you think about the people you respect deeply, what do they do differently from the average person? While you’re thinking about that, here are some of my own tips

Overcome Low Self-Esteem (part2)

Learn to say no. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Often we say yes because of the fear of authority, the fear of hurting someone’s feelings, or worries that we will let someone down. But every time you say a yes that you don’t mean, you’ll end up doing a half-hearted job. And then you are unhappy that you said what you didn’t want to say, and you are unhappy that you did such a lousy job of what you said you would do.

Overcome Low Self-Esteem (part 1)

“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” 

You’re smart, funny, and genuinely good at heart.

You have ideas that could solve many of the problems you see around you. You could regale people with interesting stories that crack them up. You could be the perfect partner, parent, or friend.

Lessons in Manhood

1. Accept death with open arm

If death isn’t feared but instead welcomed there’s no limit to what you can accomplish and what you’ll aim to accomplish.  We not only fear death but we fear the unknown and injury and failure and for shite’s sake we need to stop, and the end will start when we bring our greatest fear into the present.

THE SUPER HERO

The reality is that at some point in our lives we’re all asked to be someone’s hero. Some of us will rise up to the call, and others won’t. Others will look to their left and right and wait for someone else to stand up and take control. Which one will you be?

TRUSTING GOD IN DIFFICULT TIME

 

I've had a rough year, yet through it all I trusted and still trust, that the Creator of the Universe has me exactly where I'm supposed to be.

MORNING QUOTES THAT WILL CHANGE YOU

 

 

When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.