The Power of Being Single Before you say I do

The truth is, there's so much benefit in being single that people often overlook. We should be appreciating it instead of feeling awkward about it. When you’re not legally bound to another person, you have more opportunity to learn, grow, and explore also freedom of time usage compare to when you are married.  This gives you more opportunity for self discovery. 

One of the greatest deceit in singleness is to assume marriage will meet our unmet needs, solve our weaknesses, organize our lives and unleash our gifts. True marriage is beautiful but the truth is marriage doesn't make your life any less easy. 

Remember that,  you have purpose regardless of your marital status,  so your status as a single person shouldn't stop you from fulfilling your purpose. You've got so much power within than you know.

You have the power to choose who crawls into your life,  who you want in your space, You still have the power to choose the kind of partner you desire and how best to work on yourself and things around you. 

See,  You've got so much power within you.  All you need to do is PUT IT TO GOOD USE.

©Valerie Nwoji

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Dear Fine Girl

Greatness looks good on you. 

Don't let anyone make you think or feel otherwise. 

 

You can and should rise to the top of the ladder of success. 

It won't make you proud, it won't make you rude to your husband. It won't make your husband your doormat. It won't break your home, as long as you don't allow it. 

There's greatness in you. 

Stop playing small. 

Stop looking down 👇 on yourself. 

You're meant for the palace. 

Your future is endowed. 

Dream those big dreams 

Get those scary goals and pursue them. 

Be everything you can and should be. 

That's why you need to marry a man who will love that greatness to limelight. 

You need a man who will not cover your light. 

Congratulations to 

 Ngozi Okonju Iweala 

Do more than get married 

Rise to prominence 

Prepare for the palace 

©️ Adeniyi Simeon

We Matter

 One of the many lessons I have  learnt so far from everything happening around us now (From the pandemic down to the protest and how the government choose to react) is that We are Powerful, Powerful in and out more than we know. 

While reflecting on how powerful we are as an individual and also as a body,  this song from Jussie Smollett and Alicia Keys came to mind

and the meaning become more clear to me on a deeper level. 

 Lyrics

Powerful,  there's so much strength in you and me 

Powerful,  A breath away from victory

I matter

You matter

We matter

We are indeed Powerful and We all Matter

©Valerie Nwoji

Negativity Begat More Problem Rather Than Solution

I remember when I was working on a particular project back in school,  for each solution I provided then,  I had this friend that kept saying,  "I don't think this solution will work". He kept giving me more problems to each solution I provided.  Eventually I got tired and did not work on that project. 

Being the kind of lady I was, (I detest giving up,  I always wanted to say I tried but failed or I tried and succeeded)  I took up that project again but this time went straight to my lecturer and asked for some advice, he told me what to do,  then I went to another course mate of mine (Alex) and he gave me 1001 other ways to get the project done and even offered to help if I needed anything else. 

Eventually,  I got the project done successfully😀

Now,  the message here is.  Move away from negative people because they always have problems to every solution you provide.

PS: (Don't discard  negative people totally because most times,  their words make you want to achieve more and be better for yourself).

© Valerie Amaka Nwoji

MEN ARE NOT APP

You  can't download a man from palm play or  play store! 

Haven't you stay too long in your unnecessary confinement? 

Few men with unusual balls could have the the audacity to knock on your door and ask after you from your parents, especially from your dad. 

Haven't you learnt that Rebecca had to go to the well to tend water to some stranger's camel before she could meet her destiny husband? 

Enough of all these extra dignity charades and obtuse disappearing act from where your beauty can be seen! 

If church could have the capacity to tender spiritual needs, then why appear there physically and in your best outfit? 

My dear, maximize your potential to your full benefits. Flaunt what you've got but with utmost modesty. 

It is time to be at your best since every first impression matters. 

The eyes   see faster than the heart! 

Why sit under shades when the sun is enough for drying? 

Gone are the days that your over inquisitiveness and stringent attitude will be a yardstick for choosing a God fearing and ready made husband material. 

The millennial man has a short fuse, average perseverance and low tolerance for extreme stringency by female folks. 

Get up girl and put up the desired appearance.

Let these son of Abraham sees the Sarah lying beneath you. 

Lastly, be realistic in your expectations. 

Don't be desperate but exploit spaces to your advantage. 

Expect the least and embrace the likely. 

 *MEN ARE NOT APP* 

©️ *Adeniyi* *Simeon*

THE STORY OF LAGOS

Dear devout Lagosians, on the strength of the torturous experience people endure nowadays, i want you to keep in mind that,  some have promised or better yet planning to move out of Lagos only to return when the need arises probably to grace an occasion or for an official assignment/engagement.

And it is not even as if the easthetics on the Victoria Island is really appealing anymore like that. 

Let a torrential rainfall that lasts 20 minutes engulf its terrain and watch everywhere transmogrify into a swimming pool. 

 *Traffic and flood... The story of Lagos*

©️ *Adeniyi Simeon*

Saying No Doesn't Mean You're Bad

Saying yes is a good thing mostly. But learning how to set boundaries & say no when the need calls for it is key to healthy relationships with others & yourself! Saying yes to everyone leads to stress, being overwhelmed & burned out. So listen to your body & don’t feel guilty! Avoid overthinking. Don’t read too much into things.

Don’t delve and dig into something looking for issues when there are none or at least not obvious. Don’t complicate things when they’re really quite simple and easily understood. Remember, simplicity is part of faith.How often do you stop and think of just how blessed you are? The constant desire for more prevents us from being truly content with what we already have.

Learn to be grateful for where you are in your life right now. Try it. You will see the difference! Gratitude is key!

Early Morning Thoughts

 Rise above hate and flee from the intuition that everyone dislikes you. 

Stop playing the insecurity game!

Irrespective of your gender, religion and ethnicity. Stop roaming under the caution that you might be hunted. 

Being a Nigerian is scary enough for us to contend with. It should warrant pity when included in any Cvs ( Curriculum Vitae) 

Just don't fan the flame of hatred lest it becomes an inferno. 

Getting too conscious can deprive you of that necessary freedom, sometimes, learn to enjoy criticism. 

It gives you a pretty idea of where you stand. 

Nevertheless, enjoy yourself per time, make restitutions and be resolute. 

©️ *Adeniyi Simeon*

The Proposal

Some of us couldn't or rather not all men will go down on their knees to propose. 

It is neither pride nor a misogynistic idea but the truth we've not come to embrace. Enough of this lofty dreams surrounding proposals in recent times. 

I still want to know the rationale behind women wanting their men to go down on their knees and propose in a broad-day light like a pre-planned drama. You just want to scream and pepper your friends by your numerous uploads right? Or you feel your dignity is justified as a lady for a man to drop his ego and pop your most anticipated and so called the big question with a bended knee? 

It is not written anywhere in the book of affection that a man who does all these things makes a good man or a good father, at least not that i know of. So what the heck? 

Let your man do this in his own discretion. It shouldn't be your template, script or act. 

Dear beautiful, you don't have to copy friends to pressure your man to do some certain things. This public show sometimes leads to disgrace. What about preferring your man to send a post-man to deliver your ring with a beautiful note that expresses his affection? Why don't you prefer him to surprise you in the committee of friends without causing much public traffic? What is strong in him expressing his heartfelt words over a table-for-two? 

Be more creative than being a public disaster!

Some of we men prefer the secrecy, we believe all that stays there thrives. Never a weakness as most of you presume!  Isn't it still better to choose the old-bride format devoid of drama and trauma by not exposing unnecessary lots for public consumption? 

He is on his knees or not is never a determinant for his truest character. Love and its proposal comes in different format, see beyond the conveyor but his message. It pays sometimes to drop the unnecessary expectations and the shenanigans of proposals. 

The 'must-do' script  you've already written and acted in your mind. Who cares what happened during the proposal? Your critics will still show for your party rice. 

The earlier you know it's both of you against the world, the better. 

Air your opinion on this article 

 

©️  *Adeniyi Simeon*

You Are Greater Than You Know

Monday's Motivation

Whatever has a definition has a limitation. God can't be defined, he is just too mighty, he cannot live inside me and I remain small, for greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world.

I just want to share with us this morning that,  whatever it is you think you can't do or can't achieve, always remember that God cannot be the ruler of your life and you remain at a spot.

The power to carry on,  the grace and inspiration to achieve things,  God is ever ready to grant it unto you. 

Tell yourself this simple but powerful words today and always;

I am untouchable, unseeable, unholdable and unblockable, but you can not deny my impact in your life.

Amaka Nwoji

Self Discovery coach 

Content Writer

Relationship Mentor