The Rules of Marriage

  

Everything you have to pass or go through in life is guided by a particular thing or guideline in order not to be led astray or act off guide from the rules of life. This particular rule has helped most ladies in their marriage and those that are single to understand the basics of the rule and abide by it.

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         Man Must Not Be Alone: From the beginning of creation, God saw man and made for him a woman because he knew that man must not be alone, the purpose of creation (both man and woman) is companionship. In other for one not to be alone, think alone, talk alone and reason alone. God made a holy and acceptable union between and man and a woman and made them one flesh. The word says one shall a chase a thousand and two ten thousand, the purpose of two being together and not alone is to acquire many, to see and in reason in the same direction of life, to come to an agreement and for two to keep warm. When one falls the other should pull him/her up and direct the back on the right path.

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          Man Must Leave His Father & Mother and Cleave to His Wife: Marriage was designed for just two people. Every man is expected to start his own family separately without involving his parent or inviting them to his new to oversee things there, he is to make Jesus the pillar and foundation of his home, in no circumstances should a man allow his home to be controlled by his parent especially his mother, for those mamma’s boy who have refused to leave the apron of their mother in other to cleave to his wife will surely have issues in his home and leave the wife very unhappy without her being able to complain. The word of God commands that “A man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they shall become one”.

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     Wife Submit To Your Husband: It is a commandment that every woman should submit to her husband, one who God has designed especially for her, she should learn to be supportive, caring and understanding, no matter how wealthy she might be, she should understand and know that her husband is the head and the breadwinner of the home, wife should therefore accord to the man the respect he so desires. Like a particular quote I s much like that says; “a man’s greatest desire is not sex, if he needs it he can get it somewhere else neither is it food because he can as well eat in a restaurant, but his greatest desire is that he demands RESPECT”. Wives submit to your husband.

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      Husband Love Your Wife: The word of God says that; “Husband love your wife just as Christ loves the church”. The love Christ has for the church is so great that every believer lives by his grace. Husband love your wife, cherish her and let your grace abound in your home, make her happy always, put smiles on her face, love her beyond mere words, understand her, make her feel special, treat her like a queen that she is. Take note husband, when you love and cherish your wife like you ought to, your home will be full of peace and God’s love and unity. Christ love never diminishes, let not your love for her diminish or grow weary.

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     Don’t Scream, Speak Softly: ‘you noisy women should learn’,  never scream at your husband when trying to explain yourself or when trying to prove a point, screaming will never let your point be heard.  When you see things going out of hand o in a wrong direction, call your husband and talk to him softly with love. Every man detests women that don’t know how to handle issues or a woman that shouts at him when they are having a misunderstanding. Learn to be patient as a woman and put your home in order. Build it with love and understanding.

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        Don’t Compare Your Husband/Wife with Another: these is so common among both parties especially the women, you tend to compare your husband to other men outside, you tend to look at the outer part of someone else’s home and how the husband treats his wife outside and you wish that is how your husband treats you too, but have you ever asked the other woman that you are admiring her husband how the man treats her at home, how he acts and responds to situation in the house. Wives stop comparing your husband, no man is born perfect. 

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     Learn Good Communication Skills: In relationship men communicate differently than women in the sense that a man can go into a room full of people and leave after two hours, not knowing a soul. A woman can go into a public bathroom and make friends with a perfect stranger as they compare the makeup they use. We are different, different yet the same. The same time, effort and attention it took for a man to court his partner is the same he needs to keep her feelings secure and happy within the marriage. Communication is meant to be a blessing in marriage not torment. When seen through the eyes of love, communication is the lifeline for any marriage. We should all learn from these communication rules, which are;

• Communication is not nagging or boasting

• Good communication is quality not quantity

• Don’t speak without thinking about the full nature of the consequences timing is everything.

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     Be a Good Listener: when communicating, learn to listen attentively without missing any key point, when your husband comes back from work and feels like telling you all that happened in his office or how his day went, even if you are not interested, show concern and listen attentively, don’t shove the topic off and act nonchalant., men are sensitive when it comes to that kind of things and you get them tired and pissed, that when next they come back home they won’t be in the mood to tell you anything or let you know how their day went.

     Happy New Month