Eight Keys to Forgiveness

Sometimes the hurt is very deep, such as when a spouse or a parent betrays our trust, or when we are victims of crime, or when we’ve been harshly bullied. Anyone who has suffered a grievous hurt knows that when our inner world is badly disrupted, it’s difficult to concentrate on anything other than our turmoil or pain. When we hold on to hurt, we are emotionally and cognitively hobbled, and our relationships suffer.

Forgiveness is strong medicine for this. When life hits us hard, there is nothing as effective as forgiveness for healing deep wounds. I would not have spent the last 30 years of my life studying forgiveness if I were not convinced of this.

Many people have misconceptions about what forgiveness really means—and they may eschew it. Others may want to forgive, but wonder whether or not they truly can. Forgiveness does not necessarily come easily; but it is possible for many of us to achieve, if we have the right tools and are willing to put in the effort.

Below is an outline of the basic steps involved in following a path of forgiveness.

5 Realities of Influence

1. Positional influence is limited

Understanding influence is essential for effective leadership.

The reality was, Joshua and Caleb were leaders in the tribes of Ephraim and Judah. The problem was that their influence didn’t reach beyond their tribes.

In fact, it appears they couldn’t even influence their own tribe! Positional leadership has limited influence.

5 Hints On Achieving A Radical Career Change

Career paths will, of course, be very different for everyone who hopes to make a radical change. This is a very individual example – and an inspiring one. So: how do you set aside what you’ve done before and change tracks?

Don’t be surprised if finding the right route isn’t a straight path

“I never knew what I wanted to do when I was at school, so I decided to study law. It seemed like a sensible route to a job so I did three years at university, a year at law college and a year doing my articles – but in fact, I graduated, I qualified, I retired. I knew I didn’t like academic law but I didn’t know what else I wanted to do. I had done art up to O-level exams and enjoyed it and I started the A-level, but gave it up as I was

Life's Second Chance

I believe that the sun shines after the rain,
I believe if you don't get hurt you'll never gain.
I believe in not doing things the easy way,
I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay.

I believe in a second chance,
I believe in a life long romance.
I believe there is life after death,
And standing up to a life of mess.

6 Questions To Ask Your Partner To Build Intimacy

Letting your guard down in a new relationship: completely essential to moving forward, but scarier than sending your snapchat sext to “My Story” by accident. You're just getting to know each other and you are definitely starting to care about them, but how do you make the next leap? Opening yourself up and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with another person not only allows your relationship to grow, it helps to build trust and an even more solid foundation for the future. But where do you even begin? Well, if you're looking to build intimacy in a relationship, there are a few conversations

Five Reason you Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night

I was getting a manicure the first time I learned that not all wives want to, ahem, go for a roll in the hay with their husbands. I was 16 and had picked out orange nail polish (oh, sixteen). I had a book with me but it wasn’t long before I found another source of entertainment. In-between buffings and polishings, the two women next to me talked about how much their husbands wanted IT and how little they wanted to give IT.

For a girl that had not even been asked out on a date this was a whole new world. I had a suspicion that their experience was more realistic than the articles I sneaky read in Cosmo while getting my hair done at the salon.

Don’t Enrich the Grave

There are a lot of resources invested by God Almighty in the life of everyone that he created. No man is created empty.

The grave is a place where the dead resides, it is well discovered that the richest place is the grave yard. For anyone who doesn’t want to enrich the grave, the following must be done.

9 Characteristics Of Highly Desirable Women

The dictionaries define “Desirable” as “worth having or wanting; pleasant, excellent or fine.”

Any man or woman who has dreamed of a future has probably created an image of what he or she would desire most in their partner. And most women have probably wished to be more desirable at some point.

Do You Know What You Really Want from Your Life? Decide Today!

When Sarah was just a small child, she was very curious and had a strong will. With a big world to explore, she got into everything—from pulling out the linens in the closet to feel how the various materials rubbed against her skin, to tugging up the flowers in the garden to find out how deep the roots went. Sarah was definitely a handful of energy as she plunged headfirst into whatever she had decided to do.

Rather than asking Sarah why she did the things she did, her parents felt that discipline would set her straight. So, with stern voices they would chastise her, rather than seek to understand her:

Don’t touch that!

Stay out of there!

Don’t do that!

3 Ways to Feel Good When Things Seem Bad

“It isn’t what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens.” ~Pema Chodron

Have you ever had something happen in your life that completely changed everything?

Wham. Suddenly you haven’t left your bedroom in days, you can’t remember what it feels like to shower, and it’s clear the only friend you can really count on is your cat. 

And whether it’s a major life-suck event or a minor one, the question is: How can I feel contented and calm when things don’t go to plan?