You must learn to judge your moves by their long term effects on other people. The problem in trying to prove a point or gain a victory through argument is that in the end you can never be certain how it affects the people you're arguing with: They may
appear to agree with you politely, but inside they may resent you or perhaps something you said inadvertently even offended them - words have that insidious ability to be interpreted according to the other persons mood and insecurities. " Even the best argument has no solid foundation, for we have all come to distrust the slippery nature of words."
Any momentary triumph you think you have gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory. The resentment and ill will you stir up are stronger and last longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
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