Discipline without Anger

Discipline is doing what you have to do, even when not convenient at the right time, it is controlling yourself to do some particular things and stopping some certain things that does not conform with your principles or your way of life.

Discipline teaches us to operate by principle rather than desire, it is not by showing off or showing a dog who is boss, it is by taking responsibility for a living creature you have brought into your world.

Discipline is doing what you have to do even when you don’t feel like doing it. For things we fear don’t exist, some people just need a little push in other to move.

Discipline is the suppression of base desires, and it is usually understood to be synonymous with restraint and self control. Self discipline is to some extent a substitute for motivation. Discipline is doing what one knows how to do best and doing it gladly.

Stephen R. Covey once wrote, “The undisciplined are slaves to moods, appetites and passions”. An undisciplined person lacks the freedom that comes with possessing particular skills and abilities.

According to the Merriam Webster dictionary, discipline is a control that is gained by requiring that rules or orders to be obeyed and punishing bad behavior, it is a way of behaving that shows a willingness to obey rules or orders or a behavior that is judged by how well it follows a set of rules or order 

Discipline Without Anger

Spanking, yelling and threats are common discipline that parents want to avoid. But often find themselves resorting to these methods of discipline when kids push them to the limit of their patience.

Most parent discipline when they are angry, by wanting to relieve their hurt and often hurting the children which is usually not the best tool to teach them about self-control or help resolve a problem.

Every parent should learn how to keep control without losing control of situations/motions.

Think ahead

1.    Stress: a stressful day and life joined with trials and tribulations of life and parenting can lead to angry outbursts. Try to reduce unnecessary stress, take the time out to tell your kids “it’s ok, take all the time you need”, stop yelling at all time and at every opportunity you get, learn to rush out early if that will help you stop seeing the mess they make.

2.     Take lots of break for yourself: Learn to give yourself a treat, take yourself out to the cinemas, take a walk, surf the internet, and love yourself. This will help you increase your patience.

3.    Gain knowledge: it is essential to read books on child development, knowing that children are naturally messy, noisy, self centered, excited, clumsy and that they are not just acting that way to get on your nerves on purpose, can really help reframe your anger. Especially focus on learning about temperament and children’s developmental need.

4.    Take a time out: Who says you need to act immediately your child (ren) misbehaves, you can move out of the house in order to clear your head, to think of the next disciplinary action, do not act so fast and be predictable all the time by the children, try to take a break for the moment, and later come back for the next line of action.

Separating your anger from discipline is a learned skill. With practice, it becomes easier and easier.