PATIENCE AS A VIRTUE

Perhaps you have heard the impatient man’s prayer. It goes something like this: “Lord, I need patience, and I need it RIGHT NOW!”

In a world filled with discourteous drivers, selfish or thoughtless customers, personality conflicts with coworkers and the constant demands of children and family, we often need

Doing the Right thing with Love

 Loving yourself…does not mean being

self-absorbed or narcissistic, or

disregarding others. Rather it means

welcoming yourself as the most honored

guest in your own heart, a guest worthy

of respect, a lovable companion.

"Don't change just so people will like you!

Like yourself and your relationships will

change. There are people who will love you

for — YOU...

Unbreakable 1

Bilal checked his wrist watch for what seemed like the thousandth time. He was in a hurry to get home to get some work done, but he was also excited about his visitor. He couldn’t believe his visitor was really coming. It had been a long time he last saw her. As he checked his watch again, he sighed. She had refused to tell him the exact time her plane would be landing and he had estimated that since it was a Friday, she would have left work early, gotten through Lagos traffic and caught her flight, all that meant she should have booked a 5:00pm flight. It was 6:45pm and he had not seen her come out of arrivals. He had been here for two hours now. His phone rang.

LUST OR LOVE? PART 2

3.  Your attraction feels destructive or dark.

4.  You're uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you're afraid that if you mention it, you'll push him or her away.

Over the years, I've spoken at women's prisons and domestic violence centers. My talk, "How Listening to Your Gut Can Prevent Domestic Violence," focuses on showing women how to identify and act on their inner voice.  The gut senses a potential for kindness and violence. Many women who'd been in abusive relationships admitted, "My gut initially told me something was wrong--but I ignored it." The pattern was consistent. They'd say, "I'd meet a man. At first he'd be charming, sexy, sweep me off my feet. The electricity between us was amazing. I'd write off the voice in my gut that said 'you better watch out' as fear of getting involved. When later the abuse began, I was already hooked." Some gut instincts though, are anything but subtle. On a first date, one woman landed in the hospital with an IV, retching from "psychosomatic" abdominal pain. But did that stop her from seeing the guy? No. From these women we gain a real-world lesson: no matter how irresistibly attractive someone appears, close attention to your gut will enable you to see beneath exteriors.
It's so much nicer to be involved with someone your gut likes. Then you're not always guarding against a basic suspicion or incompatibility. You must also give yourself permission to listen to your gut when it says, "This person is healthy for you. You are going to make each other happy." To be happy, take a risk, but also pay attention to the warning signs I presented. This allows you to wisely go for the fulfilling relationships you deserve.

Judith Orloff MD is the author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life and Guide to Intutive Healing (link is external)upon which this article is based. Her other books are Positive Energy and Second Signt. Her work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today.  Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness.

Are You Ready for a Relationship? 5 Things to Consider

What should you think about before change your Facebook status to “In a relationship”? Here are five things to consider:
1. Get involved for the right reasons.

One of the simplest questions to ask yourself is why you want a relationship in the first place. Is it because you really like this person, or are you trying to distract yourself from other problems?
Dr. Jane Greer, a New York-based relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship, acknowledges that there are definitely some not-so-

10 STEPS TO GET OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP

A partner is meant to provide love, support and help you to evolve as an individual and a couple. But when you find a relationship lacking all these and maybe even a source of pain and fear, it is time to consider your options. Here are ten steps to get out of a relationship and reclaim your life.

1. Be honest with yourself If you are even considering whether you should get out of a relationship, chances are something has been happening for quite some time to make you feel upset. Ask yourself some basic questions like do I feel energized or drained after I spent an hour with my partner? Do i want to spend time with him/her or do i feel like i have to? Do i go to my partner looking for a response that i never get? Do i come away consistently disappointed by his/her comments and behavior? Finally, am i giving way more to the relationship than my partner? If most of the answers to these questions are ‘yes’, maybe it is time to look after your own emotional needs.
   

LUST OR LOVE?

As a psychiatrist, I've seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs.

Nails In The Fence Story (A Tale Of Anger) Part 2

Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.

At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to

Nails In The Fence Story (A Tale Of Anger) Part 1

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”

THAT PRO-REMI TINUBU PROTEST AND A SOCIETY IN NEED OF MORAL SURGERY

When I saw placards of women protesting against the equally notorious Dino Melaye, I concluded that some of my compatriots have descended to the lowest immorally possible! It was not only nauseating, but how much the Tinubus have colonised some people's brains. Chai! Two Senators fighting over what was not OVERTLY and COVERTLY related to your well-being and you carried placard in support of one? Heeeee. Let us go to the nitty-gritty.